Thank you for a thought-ptovoking read, Kathleen.

However, I have to push back on "loss of control."

Control? Whomever believes he or she is in control of his or her life is deceiving him or herself.

As the joke goes, "If you want to make G-d laugh, tell him (or her) your plans."

So, perhaps it would be more accurate to say "loss of the illusion of control." :)